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Why Should I Hire a Connecticut Divorce Lawyer?

Why Hire a Divorce Lawyer?

Whether you are the one filing for divorce or you have been served with divorce papers, going through a divorce can be confusing and frustrating. Most likely, a million thoughts are frantically running through your mind. You are probably thinking, “How did this happen? Will I be able to keep my assets? How can I afford this divorce?” Your natural inclination is to panic.

But, there are ways to make the process much easier. The best thing that you can do in order to protect your assets and make the divorce process as stress free as possible is to hire a lawyer. But not just any lawyer. If you are going through a divorce, you need to hire a divorce lawyer. If you want to do everything in your power to file for divorce successfully, you need a divorce lawyer to help you through the process and advocate for you.

Pros of the Divorce Lawyer

While it’s true that lawyers can work on many different kinds of cases, most lawyers focus on a few types of law, giving them experience in these cases. If you want to file for divorce, you don’t want to retain a lawyer that deals mostly with personal injury cases. This lawyer can do the research necessary to represent you in court, but they won’t have experience with divorce cases.  

Some other type of lawyer might do a good job, but when the stakes are this high, “might” isn’t good enough. You need a lawyer that eats, sleeps, and breathes divorce law. This lawyer should know the divorce laws and court rulings like the back of his hand. Hiring a lawyer like this can help you with your case. You’re only going to find a lawyer with this much knowledge, experience, and passion if they work with divorce cases every day.

No one plans to go through a divorce. For this reason, you might feel worried about how you will afford a divorce lawyer and get through this difficult time in your life. But when faced with divorce, you need to think about your future.

When to Hire a Divorce Lawyer

Understanding the divorce process can ensure that you are aware of everything that you need to do in order to successfully go through a divorce. Hiring a divorce lawyer is a good idea. However, understanding at what point to retain such a lawyer in the process of your divorce is not always easy. You might wonder if it would be best to hire a lawyer as soon as possible, after you file for divorce, or when you have to go to court. Knowing when to hire a divorce lawyer can help ensure that your divorce goes smoothly.

Contacting a Lawyer

In general, you should get legal advice concerning a divorce as soon as possible. Deciding when to file for divorce can be complex, so it helps to have the opinion of someone that knows a lot about divorce law. A divorce lawyer can help you determine when the right time to file for divorce is based on your personal situation.

On the other hand, if you have been served with divorce papers, this probably means that your spouse has already been thinking about divorce and is gathering evidence to get what he or she wants out of the divorce. At this point, you should immediately hire a lawyer so that your spouse does not take advantage of you by catching you off guard. If you let your spouse get too far ahead in building their case before you build yours, it will put you at a disadvantage in the divorce.




Keep in mind that if a lawyer offers a consultation, you don’t have to retain their services in order to get legal advice. The bottom line is that you should retain a divorce lawyer, or at least contact one, as soon as you begin thinking about divorce. Even if you are just having trouble deciding if you should file for divorce, talking to a divorce lawyer can be beneficial.

Finding the right lawyer can also take time, so you should start the process immediately. If you want to hire a lawyer to help you through your divorce, they should have all of the facts as soon as possible in order to help you make the right decisions. At the very least, contacting a divorce lawyer is in your best interest.

Family Lawyer vs. Divorce Lawyer

In divorce cases, many people contact a family lawyer or a divorce lawyer to help them through the process. However, a family lawyer and a divorce lawyer are not necessarily the same thing, and understanding the distinction between the two may help you decide which one you would like to employ to help you with your divorce case.


Understanding the jobs of each type of lawyer will also help you to understand what you should expect from your lawyer as well as how they can specifically help you. A divorce lawyer can be described as a specific type of family lawyer. A divorce lawyer deals solely with divorce cases and will represent one spouse in civil court. A family lawyer deals with any legal issue between related people, including but not limited to divorce. Other cases that a family lawyer may face include adoption, question of paternity, juvenile delinquents or custody issues, the emancipation of minors, etc.  

As a result of the various types of cases that a family lawyer can represent, this type of lawyer may have a broad knowledge of many different legal matters. This can be a positive or negative aspect of the family lawyer, because they many not have as much in depth knowledge of specific divorce cases, however they may be able to help in paternity cases or custody battles. A divorce lawyer is a lawyer that deals solely with divorce litigation before a court of law. The job of a divorce lawyer, much like a family lawyer, is to help one spouse with property division, custody issues, etc. in a divorce.  

Which is Right for You?

Consider your personal situation to determine if you should hire a family lawyer or a divorce lawyer. If you are just dealing with divorce, a divorce lawyer will be more appropriate for you. But, if you have additional family issues at play, contacting a family lawyer might be helpful.




Divorce Lawyers for Men

Men and women face unique challenges throughout the process of getting a divorce. As a man involved in a divorce case, you should find a lawyer who understands the challenges that you will come across.

As a man, it is essential that you begin preparing for your divorce as soon as you realize that your marriage is over. Establish individual credit cards to separate your finances from your partner’s. You will need a Connecticut lawyer who can help you understand how your assets will get divided.

Also, the lawyer should act proactive in helping you keep the property that you want. It will be important that you show that you are a stable and responsible person, and that you are a good parent so that you can fight for either custody of or visitation rights to your child. This is especially important if you or your soon-to-be ex want to relocate outside of Connecticut.

Divorce Challenges for Men

While each case is different, child custody, support, and visitation are some of the biggest challenges that men in Connecticut will face during a divorce. You and your lawyer should establish that you can be a stable father and that your children need you in their lives. In many cases, the husband has to pay spousal and/or child support after divorce. While there might not be a way to get you out of paying support, a good lawyer can make sure that the payment fees are reasonable.

If you are fighting for custody of your children, your lawyer should be aware of this as soon as possible so that they can inform you of your odds and begin to build a case.  

Every man will feel differently concerning what he wants in terms of child custody, support, and visitation, so you should explore your feelings about these things and inform your lawyer of what you want. If you find a good lawyer that you can connect with, and if you inform your lawyer of what you want to get out of the divorce as soon as possible, you will have a good chance of getting these things. Consider what you want and make sure that you find a lawyer who is confident in your case and eager to help you.

Questions for Divorce Lawyers from Men

  1. “Do you mostly specialize in divorce and family law? If so, can you give me a percentage of how much your practice is devoted to those fields?” To make sure that the lawyer has experience with divorce and family law, you should see how often they practice these types of law.
  2. “What sorts of family law and divorce cases have you handled in the past?” This will also help you understand a lawyer’s knowledge and experience in divorce law.
  3. “How many men have you successfully represented in the past?” Make sure that the lawyer has experience defending men in divorce cases.
  4. “How much success have you seen in both mediation and in the courtroom?” If mediation is an option for you, you should learn about this lawyer’s experience with it.
  5. “How many years have you practiced law for?” This will help you understand how many cases the lawyer has handled.
  6. “What is your retainer?” Make sure that you understand the financial obligations that you will have if you hire this lawyer.
  7. “What is your hourly rate and how do you bill your hours?” Again, make sure that you won’t face any hidden fees.
  8. “In your opinion, how will my financials get affected in this divorce?” If you feel worried about how divorce will change your finances, ask a lawyer for their professional opinion.
  9. “How long do you think it will take for my case to get resolved?” Divorce can take months or even years. Understand what you are investing in before you begin the process.
  10. “How familiar are you with this area’s court system and judges?” Each judge and courthouse is different. The more familiar your lawyer is with your jurisdiction, the better.

Divorce Lawyers for Women

Similarly, divorce presents a special set of challenges for women, especially stay-at-home mothers. A stay-at-home mom will face the extra challenge of having a difficult time making ends meet because she will have little control over finances, since she is not bringing a paycheck home.

If you are a stay at home mom and you want to file for divorce, you might feel like you don’t have much power in your relationship. You might be afraid that a judge will not give you custody of your children because you have no job and it seems as though you will have a difficult time providing for your children. However, if you are in this situation, you do have options. With the help a lawyer, you can get child support as well as spousal support. In addition, you can find ways to get a job, even if you have been out-of-work for a long time.

Divorce Challenges for Women

Firstly, if you are a stay-at-home mom and you are worried about supporting your children after a divorce, find a good attorney to help you get through the divorce. Your lawyer can help you to get child support and possibly alimony. This will help you support your children as you try to go back to school or find a job to support your children. You will still be able to receive financial support from your ex, and this will take some of the pressure off of you as you try to provide for your children.

Another concern that you might have as a stay-at-home mother is that your spouse will fight you for custody rights and will win. This can seem like an overwhelming thought, but try not to panic. Many stay at home mothers go through divorce and are able to still keep custody of their children.

Preparing for Divorce

If you do not have a job or a license, you will want to start working on these things immediately. Try to get a resume together as soon as possible, consider your strengths, and begin looking for a job. Even if you do get child support from your ex, you will need to go back to work in order to fully support your children and yourself. Finding a job might be a lengthy and difficult process, but you will be able to support your children in the future, especially if you are proactive.

Facing divorce as a stay at home mom can be overwhelming and stressful. Remember that you do have options and that in most cases you will be able to get custody of your children, even if you need to work on your financial situation. Also keep in mind that hiring a lawyer can greatly reduce your stress during this time.



Domestic Violence

Women are oftentimes the victim of domestic violence and adultery, and if you are a victim of one of these things, these are things that your lawyer should be aware of so that you can get the care and protection that you need.

Even with limited proof, if you are a victim of domestic violence, you should find a lawyer who can make a strong case and present it clearly in a courtroom. Your lawyer should be proactive in obtaining a restraining order for you and keeping you safe throughout the process of the divorce.

Even if your husband was never abusive throughout the course of your marriage, if you file for divorce it might upset your husband enough to become violent with you. In this case, a restraining order may be necessary.

Questions for a Divorce Lawyer

When meeting with a lawyer you should have a list of questions prepared. While every divorce case will be different, some important questions to ask are explained here. Firstly, when you meet with your lawyer, you will want to check out their credentials. You may want to ask questions such as, “how much experience do you have?”, “do you have any testimonials I can look at?” or, “what is your success rate?”. Feeling confident in your lawyer will help you lower the stress that goes along with the divorce process.

Once you feel confident in your lawyer, you will want to start asking questions about the divorce process. Ask your lawyer what steps will be involved in the process and how long each step should take. Familiarize yourself with the Connecticut divorce laws and regulations and refer to your lawyer with any questions. Any questions that you have about the process should be brought up with your lawyer – ask them if you will need to communicate with your spouse, ask how they plan on approaching the case, etc.

You should also talk to your lawyer about any resources the law firm may have to make the process easier for you. You may also want to ask your lawyer if mediation is an option that you should consider.


While these are all important questions to ask to help you feel more comfortable with the process of going through a divorce and to help you feel confident in your case and your lawyer’s abilities, you should also talk to your lawyer about practical things such as cost. Ask your lawyer how you will be charged and how expensive their services are. The last thing you want is to be charged with expensive bills that you were not anticipating from your lawyer.

This is merely a guideline of some questions you would probably want to talk to your lawyer about. You should ask your lawyer questions that are individualized to your case as well as these questions. Make sure that you give a consultation with your lawyer careful thought so that you can ask everything that you want to and understand the divorce process.

Finding a Divorce Lawyer

If you have friends or family that have gone through divorce, talk to them about who they hired to help them through it. If you have friends with highly positive experiences, look into retaining the divorce lawyer they hired. The good thing about most divorce lawyers is that many offer consultations. This means that you can set up meetings with several different attorneys before making a decision about who you want to hire.

Take this time to get to know the lawyer. Do you feel comfortable with them? Do they seem confident? If the lawyer can already start to plan out your defense and walk you through the process, that lawyer is probably very knowledgeable and experienced.

If you are faced with divorce, you want to be proactive. The sooner you start looking for a divorce lawyer, the sooner you will be able to start building a solid case. Consider a lawyer’s reputation and fees before hiring them.

Hiring a Divorce Lawyer

We understand that the divorce process can seem extremely overwhelming. Hiring a lawyer is just another thing that you don’t want to deal with doing. But, hiring a lawyer will be very helpful to you throughout the case. Use this information to make sure that you find the right one. To put our attorneys to the test, contact Ruane Attorneys today. We would love to set up a consultation with you and help you through this process.


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Why Should I Hire a Connecticut Divorce Lawyer?

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