When facing neglect or abuse, the criminal and civil case processes can be overwhelming. One way to ease your mind is knowing what to and what not to do to establish the best chances of winning your case. Doing the right thing during the discovery process and then in court can help your loved one’s case. But, saying the wrong things in front of the judge or jury can negatively affect the case. It could cause the verdict to not be in your favor. Below are a few do’s and don’ts that you can help your loved one with. These tips will make this experience as simple as possible.


  • Hire a lawyer. The key to having a case resolved in your loved one’s favor is getting the right lawyer to suit your needs. Legal processes can be complicated. Hiring a lawyer is a good way to ensure that your loved one’s side of the case is supported. It will also ensure that their rights get protected.
  • Stay calm. Try to help your loved one keep their emotions under control. While this is a difficult and emotional time, the best tactic is to stay calm, cool, and collected.
  • Be on time! Whether it being to a meeting with an attorney or to court, you should always make an effort to be on time. Nothing makes a worse impression than arriving late. Being late gives off the impression that your loved one does not care about the case.
  • Dress appropriately and professionally. Encourage your loved one to dress to impress! They only has a few seconds to make a first impression and your loved one’s attire can make or break a first meeting. When going to court, keep attire simple, clean, conservative, and professional.
  • Always address the judge as “your honor” or “judge so-and-so.” This shows the judge that you and your loved one respect them, which could help the case in the long run.
  • Present actual facts. Do not encourage your loved one to bring up opinions or false claims. Rely on documents, witnesses, and your loved one’s testimony to cause the lawsuit.
  • Expect objections. Prepare for possible objections by the other party. Have reasonable answers ready during court.


  • Get personal. Lawsuits can bring stress on every party involved. It is easy for you and your loved one to let emotions get the best of you. But, this is not the right strategy. Your loved one should keep their argument about facts and not personal opinions unrelated to the case.
  • Raise your voice at inappropriate times. While in court, your loved one should only speak when spoken to. Even if emotions begin to rise, it is not a good idea to raise your voice to the judge. Any threatening tones directed at the judge or jury may impact the case negatively.
  • Use appropriate language. This “don’t” applies to both meetings with an attorney and also while in court.
  • Use facts to argue the case, not lies that you and your family have created. Also, do not create any fake or made up evidence. In the end, lying could cause the verdict to go in favor of the opposing party.

There are many do’s and don’ts to keep in mind while going through a lawsuit. Remember that your family should conduct itself in a respectable manner throughout this process. While in court or during meetings at an attorney’s office, be appropriate and courteous. Being rude and negative will get you nowhere in this country’s legal system. Keep the above points in mind from the beginning of your loved one’s case up until the very end.